Kedekut

Heard this story when I was in the office surau yesterday. One of the Kakak's was sharing her story of how she would bring back with her food supply i.e Milo, flour, rice,anything food that her family will need when going back balik kampung. Reason was that she doesn't want to burden or taxing her parents' food supply . Not that her family eat alot .But her common sense tell her not to burden her parents with food supply . And some of the kakak agreed with what the 1st kakak did. But what she said after that made me joined her conversation.

They talked about how some of married siblings with kids in tow, would happily finished the whole food supply and never bother to chip in buying food. To make it worst, some of the siblings would not lift a finger in helping to prepare the food. All that they know is that food is served for them. Be it for breaskfast, lunch, dinner or tea time. And do they bother to buy some kuih muih for tea? Nope at all. To these people, balik kampung is the time they get to be served by FOC maid who are actually their own family member. Mind u , some of these people are actually adults and not some children.

I don't deny that this is happening in any family gatherings. It doesn't matter if u are rich or only average in income earnings, these people like to take advantage of their own family members. Reason lies in the personality, characteristic & behaviour . Doesn't matter whether they are SPM holders only or have degree from some Ivy league univercities. These people just cukai orang lain.

Take a look at ourselves. Did we bring any buahtangan for our grandparents or parents when balik kampung? Imagine u did this when u are in your twenties & have earned your own salary.
Some of us may not do it . While some might. Why? Coz some of us will say it's only our Atuk& Wan and it's only our Mak&Ayah. Plus, our parents have their own money & can afford to buy that buahtangan of buah-buahan or kuih-muih. Or that they don't eat oranges, dragon fruits!

Actually it doesnt matter if our parents or atuk/wan can afford to buy as they have trillions of money. Remember the saying "It's the thoughts that count". So imagine how happy they would be feeling when getting some buahtangan!

And talked about giving some pocket money to our parents. Do u remember the times when we were schoolgoing children? Remember the daily pocket money we used to get from our parents throughout our school years? And if we add up all those money, we have had actually received thousands of money from our parents. So does it cost much or taxing too much on us to simply give RM100 or the least RM50 to our parents each time we balik kampung?

I just don't get it why we can think that giving away RM100 notes or RM50 notes a month is way too much when they are only our parents. To me, the more we share Allah's nikmat/gifts to us, the more we will get in return in the future. Even if it is only RM10 notes.

But then, people just don't wanna grow up and learn. Just remember, what goes around, comes around. We may be treated like that when we are old as our children can easily copycat our own behaviour. And this is happening without us realising it. Right under our own nose!

Decorating my house

I'm on photo frames hunting these week..

So many projects to beautify the new house. And how so busy & less time my hubby has for these projects. He is travelling again next week. How nice if I was a SAHM and get to follow him.. :)

Motherly common sense tips

Some more tips are :

Bottle brushes: Hopefully no one will simply pick up any brushes without thinking will it scratch the inner wall of the plactic bottles. Ask around from anyone who may have bought brushes that leave a scratch inside the bottle. Once scratch, it will be easy for bacteria , germs to contiminate milk.

Bottles & tits liquid cleaner : Any baby bottle & tits cleaner will do.. Even soaking them in salt water too will kill the germs. However, pay more attention to the way we clean the bottles & washing bowls or sinks. Just make sure the surrounding is in clean condition. This will save you from having to rewash it again should you accidently drop or touch the clean bottles around that washing area.

Powdered Milk: For those who have stopped breastfeeding their babies ( best once baby is 2 years old), it is to our children benefits that they continue drinking milk until forever. There's more goodness to milk than any other drinks which is available out there. Strong teeth & bones & a good health too. So which one ? It depends on your baby actually. But try to give the best brand that have better quantity of additional ingredients. From my own research, Neslac 1 & 3& above which is under Nestle brand, is the best powdered milk. Why not Enfagrow? Its far more expensive than Neclac right? So it should be the best milk compared to Neslac. Unfortunately, it lacks in the quantity percentage of its ingredient. No doubt the contents are all the same. But the percentage is far more important than the milk brand.

Breastpads: For those who have no idea what it is, well, its one thing we breastmilk feeder can't live without. No more breastmilk stain on our shirt when our breasts( fulled of milk) suddenly leak milk occasionally. I've tried so many brands. From the expensive ones to the cheapest one. And I found one which is economicall in cost & high in value too. Bebe breastpads. This you can get from Jusco & Guardian pharmacy. However, be reminded that this is based on my own experience an. It may not suit others.

Baby clothings: This is only applicable to those who wants to buy the unexpensive brands that we can get from Jusco and any other shopping complexes. One thing for sure, Baby Kiko has the best fabrics quality. The clothes wont looked so worn out after hundredth of washing. Better than Anakku which I find it to be a bit low on the quality even it it highly priced.

Baby cots: I noticed that not many parents-to-be are aware that baby cots size does matter. Of course all cots look the same. But not the width especially. Most failed to see this. It's better to invest in bigger cots width as it will give your baby more space to toss & turn .

Bottles : If possible, try not to use the hand-me-down bottles that have scratched inner wall. No point in trying to save some money at the expense of our baby's health.


A gentle reminder that all these tips are merely from my own experience. Thus , please use our own common sense when making the final decision . Always put your baby's best interest above anything else. Insya Allah, everything will be fine.

Hello Old Baju Kurung Size!

Last nite, just as I was about to go to sleep, my department head smsed me. Texted me to wear something nice for our raya card photo shot. So I browsed my collection of officewear baju kurungs displayed infront of me inside my new wardrobe cabinet.( I love the cabinet color that we have choosen so carefully & with much thoughts put into it!).

This old baju kurung which size was tailored to my size-before-pregnant, caught my eyes. I thought why not I slid into it and see if it fits me . And to my surprise, it fits me just like the good old times! Voila!

I'm just so happy this morning. Happy that I'm loosing weight and that all my losing weight plans is working on me.. Alhamdulillah! All the effort joining the bodystep, bodycombat, basic step classes & jogging on the threadmill has paid off. And I must say that it's not an easy job to cut down & limit your food intakes. Especially staying away from all those sinful food! I don't really cut it out from my food intakes. I merely limiting the quantity & frequency of eating it.

There are still a few more kg to lose actually... And yes, it does help to read other people's success in losing their bodyfat. I remember feeling so motivated to lose weight when I read Zizie's success story. Her method may be different than mine. But the end result is something I'm slowly catching up with her.

It's like waiting for doomsday

Somehow this morning, the urge to visit our former PM was just so strong. I had wanted to visit it since permatang pauh election day started. But office workload was just too much,and no free internet line was available at office.

What our former PM had said in his blogs really depicted the feelings of rakyat malaysia. Be it the rich folks or the middle income folks or the lower income folks. And true to what he wrote, rakyat malaysia have expressed their dissapointment, anger, frustration about the current PM & goverment by voting the opposition. True to that, PKR DeFacto leader won in the permatang pauh recently.

I cannot not to disagree with what his had written in his blog. Why? because it is so plain & simple to see that everyone is only jaga peruik nasi masing2. They dont care about the rakyat. They don't care about the future of our country nor do they care about one another. Yep! Racism. Like it or not, history of May 13th can easily be repeated.

I dont know why our leaders are so selfish! True that most of the UMNO member are not loyal or have strong love for the party itself. They only love themselves. Of course they have been like this during the leaderships of previous presidents. But those time, the love for UMNO was stronger than now. Why do I say that? One just need to read the papers availables at the papers stalls to conclude the perception of one;s selfishness.

I'm worried. So worried. Worried of what will happened to my anak cucu country. The things we do and don't do today will have an impact on the future generation. Sooner or later we can be controlled by the US. Not impossible to happen.

And I believe that Dr Anwar Ibrahim will one day be Malaysia's next PM. It's possible when no one in the current government cares about the future of Malaysia.