Wednesday, 18 June 2008

Sekolah Menengah Convent Seremban

One of my exclassmates from 3 Opal pasted this precious photo in Facebook. How it brings back loads of memories. How Shila can remember all the girls' full name. Amazing! Most of us are happily married with at least one child.One of us is a single mother . And one of us is no longer here with us.
I used to think what happen to most of my Convent girlfriends. There are a few of them that I still keep intouch now and then. But to those that seems so farfetch and out of reached, my heart misses them so much. At one point of my life, I dreamt one of my girlfriend when I was pregnant with my 1st child. I don't know why I wanted to see her so bad. It could be because her last address was in Bukit Damansara which is just here in KL la. I did try to look for her house with my hubby way back before Arissa was born. But somehow we didn't find it.. Funny how that area is not that big and yet we couldn't find it.. I even try searching for her in the world wide web. But no luck too. Now, I'm lazy to try to look for her again.
Another friend of mine that I managed to find via WWW doesn't want to be contacted.Ouch! I have a few of my closest friends that just want to be left alone. Hubby told me to ignore them and respect their wishes. Of course I'm hurt and angry with them.But I slowly learn to let them go. Life is too short for all these silly unimportant things. You see, I have a very good skill at ignoring things. Swept them under the carpet. Yeps! But from him also I learnt how to differentiate things that is suitable to be swept under the carpet.
Until today, I still have this hope to bump into my old school friends. Friends that I have lost contact with. But still luck wasn't on my side. Why can't I bump into them when I used the LRT or at any shopping complexes be it in KL or Seremban? Where did they all go?
I hope there will be a another school reunion. Not many of us made it to the 1st reunion held at Alson Klana Seremban couple of years back..

Thursday, 12 June 2008

Prevention is better than cure

Today I had lunch at Istana Budaya. The same familiar things happened there while me & my collegues were eating our food.

On the next table near to ours, sat one young couple with small toddler that could be 1 year old. They had finished eating their meals. Then the father got up to get some dessert and queued up to pay. Suddenly the mother got up, walked to her husband, leaving the child alone in highchair. Maybe the father was short of cash to pay. Me and my girlfriend looked in disbelieve when we saw the child unattended. Mind u, the mother left the child twice.

This act of irresponsible parents just irk me to my bones. It is so hard to swallow that these parents who claim that they really love their children yet who are also toying with their children safety. The child that I mentioned earlier could have easily fall from his highchair. One fallen, he could easily have brain haemorrhage.

We often sees fathers happily smoking infront of their children. It doesn’t matter if the child is a baby or kid . I beg to differ that these parents doesn’t know the bad impact of the cigarettes smokes on their children and people around them. We had enough information on the side effects of these smokes being displayed right under our own nose. Thus, why do these fathers still smoke in front of their kids?

We also have read in the newspapers of how one child got scalded. It’s a known fact that kitchen is a red zone for toddlers. Yet, some parents are happily allowing their children do play in the kitchen or enter the kitchen when they are cooking. I do know they are some mothers out there who have no maid to help them cooking. But we can always leave our kids to play in a safe place that is not far from our sight.

Another annoying habit is children on the moving escalator. We often see those cute hands playing with the moving handrail. And the parents just look at these things maybe thinking it’s a harmless act. Don’t they know that the clothes can get stuck and suck with the moving escalator? What if it was those cute little hands? Yikes!

It’s sad feelings when children get injured due to their parents own selfish behaviors. Until to day I still don’t understand why those circumstances above keep on happening. Aren’t we the entrusted guardians to our children?

I see some generalize thinking out there on how we embrace parenthood. Most parents just put their feet into that parents’ shoes without adding or improving their parenting knowledge. Most of us have zero parenting knowledge. Who says we are born with parenting skills. But that shouldn’t stop us from enriching ourselves with parenting skills. It should have clicked to our minds to have it enriched when our spouse is pregnant.

Have u heard these phrase “ Just go with the flow.” ? I guess that is what most parents out there are doing. If not, those avoidable accidents won’t be in the news. These accidents can be avoided easily. It’s not about raising our children in a rigid way. It’s more about raising them up in a healthy and safely environment. Sometimes it pays to be extra careful when dealing with our children surrounding. All we need is some rational thinking rather than a complacent one. At the end of the day, it is our own fault to be blame when these accidents happened as it is us who put our children life on a pedestal. Its easy to prevent things from happening that curing it once it happened.

By the way, the food at Istana Budaya café is so delicious. From the main dish to the kuih muih and the drinks. The teh-ais is just rightly prepared. Do go there if u can and when u want to eat masakan kampong. Price is reasonable.

Wednesday, 4 June 2008

A test on Love & Marriage

Yesterday I visited my friend's husband who was in ICU at Ampang Puteri. I had to go that evening after work as I just dont feel good about it. So many of my friends during my university years had come during the weekend. And constant emails about my friend's husband just bugged me later that evening. Thus, I told myself that I had to pay her a visit. Besides, my office is in the same area and even my house too is not that far from the hospital.

Alhamdulillah. Pak Wan's ( my husband's friend) condition has improved since last Thursday. He can open up his eyes. But what lies instore after this is truely a test of love & marriage for my dear friend Suzy. A test of Allah for the more than 10 years of marriage.

Imagine having to teach our soulmates how to chew food, how to talk, how to grasp & hold things, how to walk and write. Imagine that your physically-able hubby is now like a newborn baby to you. And the food that he can take now is EnfaGrow.Berat mata yang memandang. Berat lagi mata yang memikul.

Alhamdulillah, Suzy is still the same person that I have always known. We may not be that close but still we share the same circle of friends. For that, I felt the need to come & give her moral support. With this test from Him, she is still that strong person. I saw that in the way she hold her husband's hand and in the words she said to him. U can catch a smile from her face now and then. And that was at the ICU and just a few days of recovery.

As I was driving back home from the hospital, my mind start thinking about Suzy & Pak Wan. This is really a test from Allah. A test of how strong their love is for each other. Earlier their marriage have been tested ( and still I think) with no sign of children for them yet. And now another test from Him.

We all had & have been tested from Him in so many forms. It can be in the form of no children for us yet. It can be in the form of how our hubby is being wooed by another woman.Be it a pretty woman or not. It can be in the form of having busybody inlaws. Or be it in the form of our breadwinner losing his work.

All of this is just to test how strong is our marriage love-bond. Do we split our ways when things get tough? Or do we stay together to face what-come-may till death do us part?

Monday, 2 June 2008

Indiana Jones

Honestly speaking, I never thought that i will have a great weekend last week. Sometimes, we can never tell what will be instore for us even when we have made plans.
My hubby & I made plans to watch Indiana Jones last Saturday. And I succesfully booked the tickets. So there we were on friday feeling happy and looking forward to watch the movie at Seremban2. But that happiness wasn't long for after I got a phone call from my dad. They got a wedding invitation from a dear friend . And the reception will be in Tropicana. So, Ayah asked for my help as he is clueless on how to get there. And knowing my dad, I know he will get lost even I have given them enough info. Plus, none of my 3 siblings were free to drive them there.
Thus, the movie date got cancelled. Of course hubby was feeling frustrated at first. But then, we just looked on the positive side of things. And make do with what we have.
If I didn't send them to tropicana, I wouldn't have had a chance to eat at Uptown again. So, there were we enjoying ourselves eating at the same placewhere we used to go during our coupling years. Emmmm! Tony's kuehtiaw still taste the same. And the tauhubakar. And the cendol. And Sulaiman's Limau Asamboi Ice Special! I dont think u can get that drink from any other stall. It's really a pick-me-up & refreshing drink.
So there was I & hubby. Eating & talking & eating & talking. How I feel like we were still dating each other. Going there after office hours.
The crowd over there changed a bit. Maybe because it was school holidays. Thus lotsa moms&daddies with their kids. Looking at the crowd made me think, do any of the peoples from my dating times have ever come back to this place again?
The next morning, me & hubby went to watch movie at Seremban2. Yeah, I left Arissa to play with her cousins. Somehow I managed to book Narnia's movie ticket even though it was 2 hours before movie time. But then again, something good was instore for us again.
Alhamdulillah. Hubby managed to buy the Indiana Jones's tickets. Luck was definitely on our side. The cinema operator had just opened a new hall for I.J. when hubby asked for any available seats.
Looking back at yesterday , I'm just so happy with how things turned for us. Not only did i get to help my parents, but me&hubby got to watch I.J. Oh, yes! our dinner at Uptown too.