Fireworks

Make your own fireworks !

That was what came into my head when my single friends go on holidays..

For me, single people should not stop from creating and making their own fireworks. While we married people have our own fireworks that is created from being married , single people should have theirs too.

Of course for married people our fireworks can come from our children & spouse that we have. Even from the spouse's relatives too..

But for single people, these are not attainable for them.. Thus, going on holidays are one of them.. I hate when single people just live their live between work and home only.. It should be about exploring other things too.. Going places that you have never been.. these are fireworks in life..

Website

Eventhough  I was only looking at the photos of this international school in Jakarta, good feelings are suddenly felt by me.

Of course the real stuff may be different from what is displayed online. But I must credited the special human touch effort embedded during their school website creation. In Photo gallery, so many school events from kindy level to Secondary level were put up on display. So are the school's PTA  events & meetings. And the I like also the photos of the teachers & school management teams. It easy to tell from a person' smile. And I must say most have a pleasent smile that looks natural not superficial.

I do hope all these are the same when I visit this school .

Play your legitimate roles!

Things likes this would not have happened if husband & wife know their responsibilities & roles that they should do in a marriage.


All these while, I read this happening in the magazines .Magazines that always features this kind of articles are Mingguan Wanita.. Thus I can’t believe it when it happened to people I know..

In Islam, a husband main roles, duties & responsibilities are to provide everything, from A to Z for his family. This including providing a maid if he can afford one la.. And it is encouraged & ok for any wife to share & spend any amount of her own money for the well being of her family.. Meaning, a wife are given free option to share her money to buy food & pay for it for her family needs. But it’s not a right given to husband to demand for this from his wife..

Thus, if there is a mutual understanding between husband & wife on their legitimate roles to play, the marriage will be smooth sailing when it comes to spending money for the sakes of the family well being..

Even in other religion too this concept is widely known..I mean both husband & wife should shouldered the same responsibilities in their marriage..

But when a husband especially forget his roles & responsibilities, that is when a harmony marriage turns to be unharmonious one..

I just could not understand why a husband does not want to pay for the family food and other utilities too… The weirdest part is when the husband expect and even asked the wife to find a new job that can offer a higher salaries.. Shouldn’t it be the husband’s roles to find more money for his family? It is good enough that his wife is working too and willing to pay for food & utilities.. But asking her to get a new job is just too much la…

Want to know why this is happening? Based on stories that these ladies shared to me is that these husbands get too complacent once their supportive & kind hearted wives pay all the food & utilities bills… At the early stage of the marriage, these wives were eager & happy to help out with households finances.. And there are husband too that give monthly allowance to his wife to settle all the bills…

But things started to change for worst when these husbands started taking these things for granted… Suddenly the monthly allowance is stopped and the wife has to fork out everything from her own salary… Does not matter if the wife’s salary is lower or higher than the husband’s salary..It is still the husband’s roles & responsibilities to pay some or all for the house expenses..

More pity when this involved the well being of their small innocent children… Don’t these husbands want to give the best education for their own flesh & blood?

I get headache (slightly) when I think of these marriage illness… Sometimes I looked back to ones’ religion faith… I always believe a good knowledge of religion will help to shape one’s personalities & characters. Faith & religion will help to curb these marriage illnesses from happening…

I looked back at level of faith & religions of these husbands have…Sad to say that is NIL…

Again I hate it when people get too cosy & complacent of ideas & concepts of marriage.. I know in general, people like to use this concept of “just go with the flow” for their marriage. They apply this to husband & wife relationship. They even apply this concept when raising up their kids.. When it comes to kids, that is why we will see these obese kids due to poor eating habits low nutrition, kids with poor behavior who does not know to salam , respect others, kids who does not know how to behave in other people’s houses etc…More pity when these kids are not guided in their educations..

Argh!!!!

26th day of Ramadan 2011

Insya Allah, we may be celebrating Raya on Tuesday 30th August.

And with that, we have 3 more days of Ramadan..

Meaning 3 more days left for us to make full use of this holy month. Which sometimes I feel like I have not done enough ie praying, donate, & read Al-Quran.

I read somewhere of how things can be difficult for us at the time when we want it to be easy.. For example, donating..There will always be people from different kinds of organisation standing at the bazar ramadan or pasar malam , asking for donation from passer by . We can either choose to ignore it or donate some money to them.. Sometimes, we ignore because we are in a hurry to buy food & stuffs. But most of the time, we ignore their presence for no reason at all..

There will be some like me who ignore them at first encounter and thinking that we can donate to them later once we are done buying our stuffs.. But it never rings in our mind that the opportunity to donate especially in this holy month of Ramadan may not come true the minute we really want to donate... Meaning Allah take that chances away from us as we have been taking it for granted countlessly..

This crossed my mind last night...I saw my hubby putting some money into the folded part of his kain pelikat at his waist. I knew that that money will be donated at the mosque after he is done with terawih... So it crossed my mind will I ever get that chance to donate tomorrow.. What if Allah take that opportunity & chances away from me?

Three days left for good doings in Ramadan.. I know some of us will be feeling sad . And think will we ever get to see the next Ramadan?

I know I will always be tired at night after putting my girls to sleep early..But I hope I will be able to do my terawih & read Al-Quran & donate in these next 3 days left of Ramadan..Insya Allah..

Baby's gender

I know that almost everyone that I known had wish & shared the same view on our 3rd baby's gender.. They are all hoping it will be a baby boy as my eldest & 2nd child are both girls.

But to me and my hubby, boy or girl is not an issue for us.. The most important thing is that our baby is healthy and free from any physical & mental deformities..

Actually why we care less on our 3rd baby gender is because of the fact that there are so many married couples out there who yearn to hold and hug their own baby but still could not..

There are so many people around our life , be it among my hubby's surrounding and mine too, that are still childless. They are childless not by an option. Some of them have been married for  more than 5 years and still trying to conceive...

With that reason, me & hubby are just thankful to Allah for his precious gifts to us... To tell you the truth, I too was afraid that I would not conceived our 2nd baby as the gap was 4 years from my 1st pregnancy. And even for my 3rd pregnancy, I still had the same fear of not being able to conceive .... Alhamdulillah we are lucky.

No words can describe the feeling a parent can feel when holding & hugging  a child of our own flesh & blood. And no words can describe the longing look of those childless couples wishing to be in our shoes..

With that, any parents should be gratefull and honored to have a child or children of their own..

Obese Children :Parents' faults

So yeah.. They wanted to ban junk food from being sold at school canteens . Of course it is a great move . But to curb obesity , the parents also should have a change of mindset. After all , those children didn't turn obese in one night. Some may be obese from age 1 year old.

Just ask ourselves and observe our own family members & relatives & neighbours too. One can easily see how some of us parents just feed our innocent & naive children with junk food. Not only junk food but also too much of processed food. How many of us make it a point to feed them home cooked food that is is also nutritious & delicious?

If parents control their children's junk food intake, none of those kids will be obese . Sometimes I wonder ,  do these parents ever think what will happened to their obese kids in terms of health, peoples' perceptions  on these innocent children?  We do know how children likes to tease & bully & look down on fat children. I myself do not want my children to go such a  sad childhood  especially those school years.

I guess if one day these obese kids blame their parents for making them obese, the parents should accept it without pointing fingers to other than themselves. After all, it is those parents that brought them up into this world in the 1st place.

Anuar Zain

Eventhough i had been to his show, watched how he sings with that great vocal of his , took picture with him after the show & had him signed my red goody beg with  "love you", I am still not a big fan of AZ.

I really had a great time that afternoon . With a crowd that is 100% AZ's big fans, i found myself joining the crazy crowds. I was one of them who went standing near him just to watch him closely. I even joined those people who kneeled down in front of the stage when he took video of us.. Hahha...how i was like a teenager that afternoon.

SPM results

Can't blame the IT when  SPM students can check their results via sms thesedays..


If its were available during my time, I dont think I'll be using that service. Maybe this is because I had a wonderful time at school eventhough my click of freinds are not glamorous  or pretty or even those smart elite students.

I guess, only those who doesn't like his/her school or batches of students will opt to use the sms. More concrete reason because you dont want to meet those who treat you bad in school ..Am i right?

Well, we can't blame this student but only feel pity for them for having to experienced those dreadful moments in school.

But then, again, even if you had great time in school and still want to check your results via sms, I still think that these students are missing one of the best moment in lives. Doesn't matter what your results will be , it's great to share the moments with your friends of 5 years. Of course later on you can share the news with your family. But to shout & jump or cried tears of happiness or sadness with your friends is something worth remembering.

Orphans of the Japan Tsunami

Sitting silent in their classroom, the 30 children whose parents have not come to collect them after tsunami swept away their town




Everyone who read this article will only be feeling sad for those children at  Kama Elementary School  in Japan. Even I can't imagine what is going inside those children's minds. And to think of how to break the death news of their parents is so unthinkable and hardest thing to do. I can only think of if what this were to happen to my own flesh & blood.
 
I do hope these children have relatives that they can turned to. Can't imagine if they have none.
 
Sometimes, when things like this happened, I really would like to know how these children will grow up to be .But then , no one I think will trace back at these children and do some documentary on how the tsunami have shaped their minds & lives  in the years to come.
 

Old Care Home



Some two weeks ago on my way to work, i heard on the radio about old parents being left & taken care at old folks home or rumah jagaan org tua...The saddest part was that they were abandon or neglected by their selfish children who does not want to take care of them . One simple reason that even me got to think of was how burdensome to take care of them... A reason that I simply can not accept. Can you?



And yes, I feel angry too to those selfish children who left their old parents at old folks home and did not even bother to come and visit them regularly .



But another part of me got me to think of the main reason that drives these people to do it in the first place. I don’t think all of us can just simply commit to an act just like that overnight. Something might have played a factor in it...



Suddenly all i can think of is upbringing. How each of us is brought up by our parents since the day one of our lives.



Imagine if we are brought up in family full of love and attention. This has to start from the day we are born. And throughout the entire course of our life from baby to toddler to teenager to adulthood, our parents were always there in our live. Always guiding us in a loving way , teaching us to be a good human being that know what is right and wrong.



I guess if all parents are like that, then maybe we would not see this syndrome of leaving parents at old folks home happening.



When there is not much love and strong feelings between parents and children, anything can come in between that relationship. There is this malay pepatah that says water is thicker than blood ( air dicincang takkan putus) which easily describe how family ties is like blood . No matter how many thousand times it you fight or quarrel with your family, in the end, the ties will always be reconnected.



But in order the ties to be strongly attached, love plays an important part in it. And if from the day one of our lives, we don’t feel loved by our parents , then how on earth for the ties to be strongly bonded.



So looking back on the main reason that may have been the factor on why these children left their old parents at old folks home , lack of love could be the answer.

Friends' wedding cum renunion

How nice to see all of them here at the wedding!




That was what running in my head at that moment. To see them hugging each others, the non stop chattering and those beaming happy faces were just priceless.



It's good when people especially your friends make an effort to come either to your wedding or to any gatherings and reunions. More meaningful when you have not seen each other ever since from that graduation day. Of course some of them may have been in touch via sms, emails & phones. But to have and seen all of your friends in flesh is truly wonderful.



So we were at my hubby's ex-uni friend’s wedding last Saturday. The wedding was done at one of the hotels in Jalan Ampang. It never crossed my mind that it would be a small posh wedding with only selected people being invited. I thought it was going to be some big fat Chinese wedding reception.



Since it was not an eight course wedding dinner, that night food was simply delicious ... Imagine having a palate of dessert like tiramisu, green tea ice cream, choc cake and another sweet dessert( that i dont know what to call it )..



Speaking about the selected guests, those seated at our table were the groom's university friends. I have to admit that I don't feel much at ease when being surrounded by an elite group of people. Those sharing our table (except us & another couple) are born with a silver spoon. All except two people were funded by their family to study at LSE.



To hear them speaking with an accent, hem..... However, I was surprised when some of them suddenly looked so kg ( kampung) when they talked in malay...hahahahh... I had a shock, mind you..Ye la, these people had it easy even after graduations.



But I have to say some of my hubby’s friends are beautiful inside too. Like the humble groom himself. And another friend who he has known since baby lagi… and another friend who is doing well too after graduation. To look at that last person and at my own hubby too, I’m just proud with what these 2 guys have achieved so far with life .Ye la bila nak compare dgn kawan2 mereka yg rich kids too…heheheheh

Big Blue Yellow Building

Hopefully most of us have received the much waited 2011 Ikea catalog. My copy did not arrived at my doorstep from the Ikea delivery van. I got mine from my collegue who took it from vacant houses in his neighbourhood.

Some one in my house has been looking for this kind of 6 drawers. So when me & hubby went to Ikea a few weeks ago, we are just so happy with what we see. Insya Allah , hopefully we can come again and buy this thing for that person.

By the way, I have been using the Frajen bath towel which I bought early this year. How important it is get a good absorbent towel , right? well, the frajen towel is really absorbent and at an affordable price too!! 





Your love, your love is my drug

Suddenly the thought of buying myself an Arzu shawl is so stress therapy for me!!!!


And seeing how I can fit into my working pants which is a bit loose is so stress reliever too for me !!!!

I had a not so happy morning today. I like my morning not to be welcomed with complaints, nags and all unpositive vibes. It’s enough if my child is waking up crying as I can tolerate with it…But not from adults that obviously can actually prevent this from happening…

Wanna now what was my only comfort in the morning when all is haywire? The smiling face & laughter of my youngest daughter!

Another method is to just listen to all the unpositive vibes and just listen..Sometimes these people just want someone to listen to in the early morning!!! And how I am the CHOSEN ONE!!!!! ;(

Back to the my 1st stress medicine, I love Arzu shawls!!!! They have such lovely and nice but expensive shawls!!!! Thesedays, in order to prevent myself from stepping into Arzu shop & buy another shawls,I need to walk in a fast manner whenever passing over Arzu shop

It can be lonely at the top

Almost everyone there,are married and have children of their own except him.But  I pity him  for not being among us who are married regardless either we have children or none.

Wanna know why I pity him ? Well , he drives a mercedes benz CLS-Class & his is around my age. This you can summed up how succesfull he is among the host's friends.

Of course everyone like to have loads of money to spend and to save for retirement age. But for me it is a sad state when we dont have our loved ones ie our spouse and children to spend & share with. And it would be even more sad when u are the only child or when your parents are dead. I don't know if this guy that I am writing about is like this. But what I know is that he is single and available but lonely to me.

Almost everyone there were exchanging news about their children. But for him, he can not do that as it would be not much to be bond with.

So when me & hubby saw him walking to his car after attending the raya open house, both of us agree that how lucky we are to have each other .Luckier too that we are blessed with beautiful children. We may be not as rich as him .But we sure are rich by having each other and our two precious children.

I believe that when one is on a higher state like him who is single & rich, finding a a soulmate will be harder . Of course we need to have good perceptions of others.But there will always be that little tiny seed at the back of our mind that says that person could be up to no good. Us being human !

And I told my hubby that the easier way out for anyone like that guy is to get his parents to find some girl who is a daughter of a closed friends. A girl that you know was brought up in the manner that suited you.

Hemmm, how lonely it can be at the top when you are succesfull and rich but have no one to share and spend with.

Cendawan Kuko & Kulat sisir

Cendawan Kuko or kulat sisir .  I never thought I will come across this recipe on internet. Not that i was searching for it. Bumped into it accidently  actually. I was searching for ayam goreng berempah recipe  & found it. But this dish just reminds me of my mom who is away now  performing umrah with my dad.

How I miss my mom's cooking especially this special dish. What makes it special is the main ingredient which is the cendawan kuko . This special type of mushroom is something that you can't get it easily from the market. And not all market except pasar tani have it. And the availability is muchly depending on the season or the weather.

And cleaning it up prior cooking is quite detail. For u may find some ulat nanti..heheheh..

Normally my mom will cook it in the gulai lemak cili api style  add with anchovies only. 

Gosh!!!! i miss my mom.And her cooking too..

That Personal touch

I can’t believe it that I actually love attending weddings at hotel.

I love weddings not for the chosen concept of the pelamin and how the whole hall is beautiful and creatively decorated. But I love it better for the well chosen songs that really suit the wedding mood. And I love it when there is a personal touch to the lovely ceremony.
By this, is the reason why I like the wedding that I attended last Saturday night.

It was a wedding done by my hubby’s big boss for his less-than a year graduated son’s wedding. The place is not a hotel and for someone like my hubby’s boss, he can actually throw the wedding at some posh hotel. Who would have thought that he chose Dewan Perdana Felda. Thanks for choosing this place as it means more income for my company group P&L .
The selection of songs done by the groom’s mother was so perfectly suited for the wedding as it captured the wedding mood. Yeah ! that lovey dovey and mushy mood of love-is-in-the-air…

Most of the songs are not the normal standard wedding songs that are always being played at weddings. The songs lyrics was so beautiful that I listened carefully to each words of it.. Even dearest hubby asked me whose song was it.. Only if I knew it dear!

However the most unforgettable part of the ceremony will be that small presentation done by the groom’s father. I think the groom will remember this special presentation for the rest of his life as it was done from the heart complete with that personal touch.

Being a Beatle fan, the groom’s father used songs clips from various Beatles’ songs to tell guests on how both the bride and the groom met and fall in love. The song clips had all of us laughing as most of it was perfectly chosen. Even the bride and the groom were laughing from the start to the end of the presentation. And guess what, we even noticed the groom’s father singing during the presentation.

And it was nice being able to meet and chat again with my hubby’s former big boss and his wife . Even though he is a well known figure in the banking world but his humble background including his wife too got me liking him to the max. Knowing a CEO like him make me wish of how splendid it will be if all CEOs out there are like him in personality and character.

Fear

When death came knocking on someone else's life, why is it that you will start  to feel fear of losing someone dear and closed you ?

Last week, Zai's mother passed away after completing her subuh prayer. She passed away in  simple and peacefull way . And how touching it is to know that she passed away after meeting her creator . I always think that solat/prayer are actually one's special meetings or  visits  to Allah, which is true if one thought of it that way.

And receiving an email from Zai with her profound advice for  us to cherish and appreciate our mother and to call them as often as we can, is just so true.

I guess all of us  have the thoughts of our parents at the back of our mind now and then. And we always have that thoughts of calling them. But  now and then, that thoughts were never able to materialise as by the time we have free time on our hands to do it, those thoughts are already been forgottened.

And when death come knocking into our life, then only do we regret of not doing it in the first place. And that includes me too...

Salesmen

Who would have thought that a shop bearing the Nokia store name may not be what it seems to be perceived by our naked eyes.Like a wolf in sheep clothing where u ended paying through your nose.

Last Sunday, me and hubby when to LW Plaza to buy my birthday present. We did our research since end of Febuary. And the Nokia hp's saturday advertisement gave us a sign that it was time to get it.

So off we went with Arissa joining us at the very last minute notice. Gone were our dating plan for that Sunday..

The 1st shop that we went marketed themselves as Nokia authorised store. They even have it framed ( the authorisation paper) and displayed over the counter. But me and hubby wasn't  happy with their offers as it wasn't the same like the one we got at Sunway pyramid. Something wasn't right and missing.

Thus, we proceed to another Nokia store shop.  What we found afterwards were very shocking . 

We learned :

1. that it was worth every penny we have to do a thorough research prior to buying my hp.
2. That any Nokia Centre Store's registered chop shouldn't start with other company's name . For example  ABC Nokia Centre Store ..
3. Double check with the salesperson on what do they mean by standard package ( when buying a hp). What items are inside the standard HP package .Never assume that all shops give the same standard package . Some shops have taken out one item that was supposed to be a standard package item and marketed them as a different or FOC gifts when buying the HP. Marketing gimmick which is not even wrong actually.
4. Ask a lot of  shops on the hp u are eyeing and wanting to buy. These salesmen were only trying their best to clinch a deal . Thus nothing is wrong if they offered a customers a higher price than any other shop.

5th mothers' day

1. 1. I' m still Mr FI one and only wife. ALhamdulillah   
2. Currently blessed with 2 girls with lovely big eyes ( their black eyes are big actually)
3. Finnally got my new HP which was actually my birthday present from dearest hubby. This is after doing so many research. We got it at a very good price eventhough some sales person tried to con us..Alhamdulillah.
4. I'm a hijab dress looking lady thesedays.

p/s: this entry is done via pc after much attempt from posting it via my new hp...i really NEED to master my skills in using my new gadget                                

2 eagles for a tiger woods..

No one likes sex scandals . What's more infidelity. Doesn't matter whether it's physical or emotional infidelity. So what should be one's reaction when Tiger Woods make a comeback at the Golf US Master? I guess we either love or hate him.

Thus seeing him making  an excellent performance at US Master is awesome and great for the game of golf. I do think he is a great & talented golfer. But his infidelity was such a disgrace to himself  and to the game of golf. I do believe that he is not the only one caught in this shameful act but those people who are in it should be thankful to the God that their morally wrong act isn't out in the public. Not like Tiger. Too bad for Tiger that his act leaked to public knowledge while others none.

So yeah, I welcome his comeback to the game of golf. But i dislike him for what he has done to his wife & children. My only pray is that he will change into a better person. Sometimes, people like him should reattached himself to God and his faith. Only by doing this, the road of healing and cleansing will be an easier one. Just my thoughts.